The holiday season has certainly begun. We see the lights, hear Christmas music everywhere and, of course, there are all the advertisements reminding us to “shop early” and they have the best gifts for you to buy. While I enjoy the lights, I don’t care for a lot of what comes with this time of year. There is an underlaying pressure that is hard to ignore – tradition – whatever that means in your family and culture.
1. the handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information, etc., from generation to generation, especially by word of mouth or by practice: a story that has come down to us by popular tradition.
2. something that is handed down: the traditions of the Eskimos.
3. a long-established or inherited way of thinking or acting: The rebellious students wanted to break with tradition.
4. a continuing pattern of culture beliefs or practices.
5. a customary or characteristic method or manner: The winner took a victory lap in the usual track tradition.
All traditions are Old Energy and carry the weight of judgment and shame if you do not follow them. This doesn’t mean that traditions are all bad or that you shouldn’t participate in them if you enjoy it. But, remember that all traditions are unconsciously loaded with old belief systems, customs, patterns and ways of acting and thinking. Most traditions are like habits – thoughts, feelings and actions that are not conscious.
1. an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.
At this time of year the Old Energy conditioning increases its pressure and it can be really challenging to those of us who are breaking free of the Old Energy.
Watch for feelings of resentment. That is your signal that lets you know that you are doing things that are not in alignment with your authentic self.
I was not raised as a christian, but my family celebrated Christmas. We had and tree which we decorated in the traditional colors of Christmas, red and green. Our home was usually the venue of our traditional family Christmas Eve dinner and present opening. The menu was set – turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, etc. and pumpkin pie for dessert. We are not a big family but a few rarely seen members would join us. I loved to play the role of Santa and distribute the gifts (after the slow-eating adults finally finished dinner).
As an adult and eventually a mother, I continued this tradition (and found out why mom was always so stressed out). Though I tried, somehow these traditions didn’t “stick” with my children. They just don’t care about all the decorating, the music or the really even the gifts so much. They let me know that the only part that mattered to them was to have a big, delicious dinner – minus the pie.
Though I am happy to feel less stress and resentment, I have to admit that I feel kind of sad that they aren’t having the same experiences as I did as a child and young adult. There are parts of the Old Energy, parts of my life and of me, that I loved but have had to let got of. Of course, parts that we not so fun were easier to release. I think this question of what to let go of and what to keep is something that we all go through in this transformation. There are a lot of parts of the Old Game that we have loved (and participated in creating), in this life and past lives. Religion is a great example. I have had many satisfying lives when I was Jewish or Christian. These were the main paths of spiritual learning for my soul group. I’ve also enjoyed being a priestess or priest in ancient Egypt.
So I asked some questions of my Greater Self:
Do we have to give up everything?
What is OK to take with us in the New Game, if anything?
How will I know what I can take with me?
The answer I got was:
It is your choice. Take what you like, don’t take what you don’t like. Having choice is the fundamental difference between the Old Earth Game and the New Earth Game. You are able to have choice because there is no judgment. Other people can have their own choices that are different from yours. You can make new choices at any time too.
I was reminded of a journey I was taken on about five years ago to the New Earth and the wisdom Ahrazu/Osiris shared with me. You may read about it in The Line in the Temple: A Journey to the New Earth.
So, I went and got the box of Christmas decorations out of the shed and had some fun creating some “holiday cheer” in my house – just because I like it! The fact that my kids don’t care or enjoy it is OK. They can have their choices and I can have mine.
I with you a choice-filled, resentment-free and fun holiday, however you celebrate it!